v tired of coming out to ppl who are familiar and accepting of the aroace term, who then still turn around and say "yeah but you might still one day meet someone, right?" like I promise you most aspec ppl are aware it's an option, but it's still rude
I get you're trying to be supportive, but it still comes off as "don't worry, perhaps you're not really aroace/broken"
God that scene in the last episode was just…
The way Charlie physically closes himself off and Nick sits at his level and gently pulls him back open again
The way Nick literally holds Charlie’s hand through the conversation
The way Charlie allows himself to trust Nick
The way Nick looks so heartbroken that anybody made Charlie feel bad about himself
The way Charlie makes the decision to tell Nick about his SH
The way Nick realizes there’s even more going on than just Charlie’s ED and braces himself to hear it
The way Charlie allows himself to admit his feelings and acknowledge that he doesn’t deserve to feel like that anymore
The way Nick can’t help but hug him
The way Charlie grabs him back and buries his face in Nick’s neck
The way Nick is trying not to cry/be strong for Charlie
The way Nick’s head falls in relief when Charlie said he doesn’t hurt himself anymore
The way Nick won’t allow Charlie to be sorry for this
The way Nick doesn’t put him down or tell him not to do it again, but instead makes Charlie promise to tell him if it gets that bad again
The way Charlie still thinks he’s a burden
The way Nick looks so sad that Charlie would think that of himself
The way Nick gently reassures him that he could never see Charlie as broken or a burden
The way Nick is showing how strong he thinks Charlie is
The way Nick wants to be Charlie’s rock because that’s what Charlie is to him
The way Nick is struggling not to cry
The way Charlie finally accepts that Nick really just wants to help him
The way Nick cradles Charlie’s face
The way it looks like he’s going in for a kiss but is actually going to the forehead for the most tender kiss
The way he immediately goes to rest their foreheads together, just exuding ultimate comfort
The way he goes in for a sweet kiss
The way he’s almost ready to say “I love you” but is interrupted
The way he knows it’s not the right moment
The way Charlie knows anyway
The way Charlie looks like he can’t believe any of this is happening to him, that it’s real, that someone loves him
The long, slow, sweet kiss goodbye
The way neither of them want to leave each other
The way Charlie lingers in the driveway
The way Nick takes a deep breath and lets himself really feel everything once Charlie’s gone
The way Charlie is ready to say “I love you” back
Joe and Kit acted their asses off for this and I’m so so proud of them
body neutrality is NOT, "so long as you're happy and healthy, your body is a good body". it's about getting rid of the idea of a "good body" at all. it's saying that your body is A BODY, and having a body is a neutral feature of all humans. it's saying that specific bodies shouldn't be focussed on more than others, because all bodies are bodies
when you say "so long as you're happy and healthy", you're not actually helping. because. unless you've put in the hard work of deconstructing what you think "happiness" and "healthiness" look like, I can guarantee "happy and healthy" is just going to loop back to ableism and fatphobia
per @chemical-x-glitch : "I am unhappy and unhealthy and I still do not deserve to be shamed for anything about my body"
YES! that is what I'm trying to say here! I am disabled and mentally ill. sometimes I'm unhappy, and I'm probably never the picture of "health". while the phrase "so long as you're happy and healthy" may seem like a neutral thing to say, it's still (at its root) shaming certain kinds of bodies... the bodies that aren't their version of happy and/or healthy
it's also a perception thing, right? I could probably go along pretending that I'm happy and (mostly) healthy. but there are people who very much ARE happy and healthy who might be judged otherwise, because we still have a very strict view of what happiness and health look like
anyway. there should be absolutely zero barriers someone has to overcome before they earn the right to not be shamed about their body. you do not have to be happy and healthy. your body is a body, and therefore not deserving of shame!
sometimes i remember gillion, despite being considered the party’s tank, in actuality has barely any more health than jay does and the reason he’s considered the “tank” is less bc he has more health than the rest and more bc he shoves himself in the way between everyone else and his friends to protect them and i
now I could be remembering this wrong. So forgive me if I am but.
every now and then I remember there was literally a brief period of time where jay actually had More health than Gil did. and when it was made apparent in a rolled bizly and condi could barely believe it (and holy fuck neither could I) bc they swore down that gillion took so much damage, surely more than that HP would allow, that in both their (and presumably their characters minds) Gillion was a tank, a health shield, extremely strong/difficult to down. Because that’s how he was so consistently and confidently behaving (and definitely how charlie was playing him).
And Charlie Slimecicle (that motherfucker) just chuckled like, nah. i only act like i still have lots of health to spare. majority of the time gillion’s kicking about under 10 HP in battle. the point is to take as many hits for you guys as possible. and hopefully make the enemy believe I’m the biggest threat/the strongest so they’ll leave chip and jay alone. He also went on to point out that (especially compared to the other two) gillion does go down a lot in combat through out the campaign. it’s just never usually much of a big deal bc jay has her healing too (and once back up gillion is adept at functioning very efficiently in battle at extremely low health—)
They genuinely couldn’t believe he had so little health. Neither could I.
And I imagine that’s exactly how Gillion wanted it.
It absolutely takes years of training to master fighting confidently even when on the brink of collapse, swinging your sword with precision even through unbelievable amounts of pain. So confidently and so convincingly not even your closest allies — your friends, your family — can tell you’re hurt. And I imagine it also takes years of a very different yet very similar type of training to come to believe that all you are is what you’re worth, and that all you’re worth is what you can give. And that it’s his duty to give and sacrifice and give and bleed and give and give and give until everything he has in him is gone and even then to keep giving more that you don’t have but somehow give anyway.
It would take years of training to make someone believe it was their duty to give until their body gave out.
But if there’s nothing else we know about Gillion goddamn Tidestrider, we can be sure of one fucking thing;
He’s had a lifetime of training already.
You know. Some people could really stand to get more comfortable with the idea of “you shouldn’t say that because it’s mean”. Especially with really common body shaming and straight up bullying lines.
“You shouldn’t make ugly bald jokes because what if a transman on T sees it!”
“You shouldn’t make virgin jokes because what if someone who’s asexual sees it!”
How about you just don’t make them because they’re mean. How about people can be balding or a virgin for a number of reasons and also don’t deserve to be routinely made fun of. How about saying that the reason you shouldn’t make x joke because it spares x specific identity’s feelings also let’s them know that you actually have no problem saying or thinking bald people are ugly or virgins are stupid or etc but you’re just not saying it in front of them. How about you understand this kind of body shaming and bullying especially in a very public setting online are always going to have way more unintended damage to people who did nothing wrong than damage to the person you’re upset with.
Sometimes the best reason to not make a bad joke like that is because it’s fucking mean.
message to cis allies: buying your trans friend lunch will do much more good for the trans community than debating transphobes who will not change their minds publicaly on social media and making all your trans followers see how much people hate them over and over again
shout the fuck out to bald girls btw. let it be known that i will show the fuck up for bald/balding girls any hour of the day, any day of the week, any week of the year. you could call me up at 3 in the morning and tell me that you happened upon some receding hairline queens who need hyping up and i would tell you i'll be there in five. i love you bald girls
i get that there's a lot of overlap with asexuality and aromanticism but i am also getting very tired of having the two communities be viewed and treated as the same when they're not the same thing. i want to be able to have aro spaces and ace spaces and not just aroace or aspec groups.
